Healing Trauma With Loving Acts

There is much shame, guilt, and self blame in trauma. To counter this and promote healing, we can introduce acts of self love. By actively loving ourselves or at least going through the motions of loving ourselves even if we do not feel it, we encourage our recovery. When you catch yourself using language of self blame, try to understand yourself instead and change it to language of compassion. Survivors often talk about what they “should” do, for instance, or what they did wrong, calling themselves stupid or inept. When these thoughts come up, try to understand where they come from and replace them with supportive thoughts that highlight your good points and accomplishments. See how it feels to receive acts of love from yourself instead of criticism.

Here is a guided imagery that helps invoke self love: Enjoy!


About Dr. Ann Goelitz

Dr. Goelitz is a writer and a scholar with a wide scope of clinical experience, ranging from working with trauma survivors after September 11th to her role as a psychiatric social worker at a top New York hospital. For the past ten plus years, she has specialized in her private practice on cognitive behavioral therapy, dream analysis, and EMDR, helping clients navigate transitions and heal from trauma and loss. A seasoned educator, she has done extensive public speaking, published numerous articles, and co-authored an award winning resource directory for caregivers. Her soon-to-be published book, From trauma to healing, has received endorsement and accolades from leaders in the field of trauma. Her latest writing projects include a book on how to cope with stress written with both laypeople and professionals in mind. She has taught at Columbia University and Hunter College.
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