There is much shame, guilt, and self blame in trauma. To counter this and promote healing, we can introduce acts of self love. By actively loving ourselves or at least going through the motions of loving ourselves even if we do not feel it, we encourage our recovery. When you catch yourself using language of self blame, try to understand yourself instead and change it to language of compassion. Survivors often talk about what they “should” do, for instance, or what they did wrong, calling themselves stupid or inept. When these thoughts come up, try to understand where they come from and replace them with supportive thoughts that highlight your good points and accomplishments. See how it feels to receive acts of love from yourself instead of criticism.
Here is a guided imagery that helps invoke self love: Enjoy!