Trauma can leave survivors feeling alone with intense emotions we do not know how to share with others. We may feel frightened, overwhelmed, helpless, and abandoned.
Finding ways to cope with these feelings and re-connect with the world is key to recovery. Particularly during the holidays when we can feel alone even when with others, it helps to find ways to safely reach out. We can think of ourselves as children or animals with no homes who need parenting and find ways to do for ourselves what we would do for the children and animals – feed them nourishing food, cuddle with them, provide a warm clean environment, introduce them to friends, read to them, play music for them, laugh with them, play with them, and slowly provide a safe enough place for them to open up, smile, and lose that wide eyed guarded lost in the woods with no hope of finding home again look. Creating this kind of safety is the first step toward healing from trauma.